The Cure for Being Judgmental


Have you ever just felt “judgy”?

I’ll never forget a young women, her freckled face beaming from ear to ear, coming up to me after a message. She said: “Pastor AJ, I loved the message. God has been convicting me and showing me stuff. He’s helping me because I’ve been feeling SO “judgy” lately!” 

Her heart for God made me smile along with her. I had never heard that expression before: “judgy”, but I could totally relate to what she was talking about.

Have you ever felt like this young women— all “judgy”? Have you ever found yourself just being critical of everything and everyone? (Sometimes I call it being “Mr. Crabby-pants”) Or maybe it’s a particular person that just bugs you and you don’t know why.

What I have found is that being critical has a lot more to do with me than it does with the person I am judging. To be consistently uncomfortable with people often is a sign that I am uncomfortable with myself. In fact, show me a critical person, and I’ll show you an insecure person. I’m convinced the more insecure you are—the more uneasy you feel about yourself—the more harsh and judgmental you are towards others.

So what’s the antiode for being judgemental?

A personal revelation of your love and acceptance in Christ will drive out all that icky insecurity!

When you really start to know—to have a personal knowledge of— God’s love and acceptance of you, you become a more secure person. That’s just the nature of love. It brings security. It brings a healthy and balanced sense of self. His acceptance brings peace to the soul—a sense of safety for our weary hearts. Like a massive anchor of self-worth, God’s loving affirmation becomes the foundation for our identity.


Say this out loud:

I am loved.

I am accepted.

I am not perfect.

I am something better: I’m wanted by God.


The more you understand and confess His Word, the more you allow God’s love and acceptance to seep down into your soul. And the less “judgy” you will be.

You are loved, child of God!

To believe these things makes you able to live in your own skin. To be yourself. To be. And to let others be. If God is okay with you, then you can be okay with yourself. And you can be a little easier on others.

You are accepted. What is the use in pulling others down? You are affirmed. Why is there any need to prove yourself?

Critical people carry turmoil within. This inner turmoil simply spills out onto others. That’s what criticism is: an overflow. An overflow of judgement. An overflow of shame. An overflow of fear. An overflow of self-hatred and negativity.

But God’s love quiets the storm and allows for mercy to be given and received. Through Christ’s indescribable gift, the Father welcomes and accepts you! In his great love, He gives you freedom and the room to grow. He gives you a chance! So now, you can give others a chance.

Embrace the call today! Be loved by God, dear reader. Get a revelation of your son-ship in Him. Ask, and He will show you. Accept his acceptance of you, and let God be the Judge. He’s better at it anyways.

You’ll start to be more comfortable with yourself, and a lot more comfortable with others!


4 thoughts on “The Cure for Being Judgmental

  1. This is a great topic. And very convicting for me.
    Regarding knowing one’s identity, one of my favorite books of all time is “Victory Over the Darkness” by Neil Anderson. It rocked my world.
    Thanks for sharing, man!

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    1. David! What’s up man! Thank you for your feedback. Yea man. I hear you; my default was critical and insecure haha. like I was born in “Mr. Crabby Pants” mode. haha. Will definetely check out the book. Reminds me of “the darkside of leadership”. another great book. ps: I caught an article from you from Easter that popped on my facebook. Good stuff dude! Love the testimony about a “holistic” approach to walking in wholeness. Inc. diet and excercise. Seen in my life too! God bless


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